Have you ever had the below thoughts? I have.
1. I can change him.
2. I can make him love me. I have to do what he likes
3. This is the best I deserve.
4. I should ignore my needs, so I am not too much.
5. Let me google his zodiac likes so I can morph into his ideal partner.
If you find yourself having such questions then you’re entirely ignoring your needs. The brutal truth is that you cannot heal anyone else except for yourself. You can try everything but that unhealed partner you attracted still won’t treat you right.
You cannot make anyone love you. You can only love yourself, and the right person will love you and respect you for who you are.. once you’ve healed. Otherwise the universe keeps bringing the same kind of experiences to your life over and over again because your energy attracts that. It doesn’t end, till you change your thoughts, accept your wounds, and soothe your inner child.
I spent all of my twenties unhealed and trying to make people love me (friends, family, just anyone)
I was fortunate in my first long term relationship.. but after that ended, I talked to/ dated many guys.. and because my inner child was severely wounded, I took on a lot of sh*t that I didn’t deserve, that no one deserves or should have to deal with.. but I did, because it felt ‘right’.
My brain was constantly filled with unhealthy thoughts that if I could make them love me, then I could believe that I was lovable.
It resulted from unhealthy inner child wounds left unhealed for too long.
If you’re in your twenties or whatever –ties and find yourself in a similar cycle where you can’t catch a break… work on yourself. Use this time to reinvent yourself—the person you have always meant to be <3
Heal yourself, and go on a solo journey until you meet the person who will love and respect each part of you.
The journey never ends, but once you’ve started to work on yourself.. you stop dealing with people that don’t deserve you- you will feel a sense of peace; unknown before. It’s so refreshing.
Here are some shadow work prompts that will help you get started on your healing journey:
– What parts myself do I hide? Why?
– What parts of myself to I fully express and own?
– What event triggered me? What happened? How did it make me feel? How can I make self feel better?
– What does self care ritual look like for my soul?
– What are my negative traits? How do I hold myself responsible?
– What are positive traits that I proud of?
Wishing you happy healing
So much love, x
